On connectedness

And I had two thoughts that came to mind, one of which I will talk about now.

We actually were sitting with friends one of these days and discussing celebrities and our crushes etc (as we all do at some point of a dinner party, or is it just me?). When the friends are gone and the party was over, the subject of fantasying on something that’s not your real life kept resonating with me.

Have you seen the Netflix show Sex life? I find that this show triggers a very real question area that we don’t talk about or at least don’t have a regular conversation about it without being judgmental. So if you haven’t seen it, it is about a woman played by Sarah Shahi who is happily married in a beautiful house with a great husband and two lovely kids. But recently she starts thinking about her ex and realizes that there is a part of her life that’s missing, which is her former life as a dating single woman.

I don’t want to spill any spoilers for those who want to watch it but let me just tell you that the plot made me think about how we sometimes come to fantasizing about things that are not our life and how it affects us.

Some people say that it’s a half way to cheating, or making a significant change, and therefore don’t even dare fantasizing about anything. Maybe they fear that if they fantasize a little too much their real life will feel dull.

And here’s my cure for this. Connectedness. I realize that the difference between my real life and my fantasies is that I am not connected to my fantasies, they are more like floaters, little distractions, in a daily routine that let me come back and take a look at my life with a fresh eye. I think this is a checking point for all those who are scared to day dream, if you feel connected to yourself and different aspects of your life than getting out of your bubble in world of fantasy can even be fruitful to your life. If, however, you feel connected to your fantasy, well it’s no longer a fantasy, it’s a plan.

Whichever it is, you owe it to yourself to check with yourself where you stand and where you and where you wanna go from there, or your life will become a nightmare.

Stay tuned.

Xo,